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Cinderella aint shhhhhh..

Posted in Love Actually.., The Way I See It with tags , , , , on 09/26/2011 by emellewriter

I have often felt saddened by the realization that I’d fit so well into a man’s life that it’s like we’re best friends but we don’t feel those strong romantic tugs at our hearts for each other.

Then right now.. I had an epiphany, that is the problem! That notion that I have to feel some strong romantic tug telling me that I am head over heels for someone.

I had that before and that negro ended up being a crazy sonofapossiblecrackhead..

Perhaps, what I need is that man that makes me feel good telling him anything, who makes me laugh, who makes me want to play.. even if I don’t feel earth shattering love feelings for him.. something that is easy and easy to handle..

Maybe I’ve been looking too hard.. and not only that.. too hard for the wrong things..

I’ve got a good thing going and I almost ruined it with silly notions like those.. maybe it’s time to let go of the Cinderella fantasy and truly follow my heart.. because right now I think it’s pointing in the right direction…

Who said love had to feel like a Hans Christian Andersen story!??

You Could Be My Piece // Brief Reflections on Love

Posted in Love Actually.., luv music, m. lauren speaks with tags , , , , , , on 12/17/2010 by emellewriter

Lately I have been too busy to even see straight.. but I recently had the chance to cop Miguel’s album All I Want Is You.

I FCUKING LOVE IT!

The album is smooth, easy to listen to and different from what I usually listen to without being over the top..

One of my favorite’s off the album is “My Piece” <<click to listen>>

He’s singing about his girl being his piece.. by his side.. ridin and dyin..

The song resonates with me because it makes me reflect whenever I hear it..

When I think of love and relationships I think of two people who stand side by side.. they’re partners.. they’re lovers.. they’re friends

The song just reflects love back to me.. it’s sexy, a little bit gangsta, it leaves a bit to the imagination and it makes you want more and more.. it makes you feel safe and secure, a little risque and exclusive..

The exclusivity of love is so appealing.. any and everybody can find, experience and be in love.. but it’s not the same experience for any two people.. Love is intimate, full of surprises and sacred.. it’s actually a lot more than I can put into words or even imagine..

It is my hope that true love finds every person..

I think I just got a bit too mushy! Buy Miguel’s album on iTunes let me know what your favorite songs are..

You can follow Miguel on twitter.. @migmoney..

Let me know your thoughts in the comments or via twitter @emellewriter

Just because I love you: bonus just in case I ever become a stripper favorite track <<Vixen>>

“love is too weak to define, just what you mean to me” -Prince, Adore

*speaking of true love, not the lust, like and confusion some of you busters deem love


Practice Love

Posted in Love Actually.., m. lauren speaks, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on 04/27/2010 by emellewriter


Love is like any other great accomplishment in life.. it takes hard work, effort and yes.. practice..

Just like Lebron James (#GoCavs) practices daily to improve his game.. we must practice love..

I know you’ve heard the new person in your life tell you that you remind them of their ex haven’t you?! And I am sure that you’ve had one or two that reminded you of an ex..

We all have some “type” of person that we are attracted to.. and we like to tell our friends when we meet someone “nuh-uh girl.. he aint e’en my type.. next!” like we created this type in our minds.. I choose to believe something a bit different..

Since I believe that God has blessed us (not all of us, because some of us are meant to be single) with one other person to spend our lives with.. I know for a fact that He wouldn’t just send us out into the world to be waiting, preparing and searching for that person blindly! With that said.. I believe that your “type” is made up of all those little qualities that your future mate possesses and while we are out dating and meeting people, we come to learn what traits those are..

Following?!

So.. when we meet ex-boyfriend 1 that we thought we were madly in love with and ex-boyfriend 2 that we swore we were going to marry.. THEN we meet potential-boyfriend-and-life-mate 3 and he reminds us of both 1 and 2.. perhaps that is Gods way of letting you know that you are getting closer to what He has for you..

It is inevitable to to choose mates based on what you are attracted to.. of course they will remind you of exes!

The problem is when we try to run from our exes by not dating anyone who is even remotely like him/her, avoiding a new person that displays traits from the last, etc.

Dating is practice.. you learn what you do and do not like, what kind of person you are in relationships, what you want for yourself from a relationship, etc.

Running from someone you are naturally attracted to is like Tiger Woods trying to play football.. #stayinyourlane..

So.. how about this instead?!

Understand that you are choosing based on what you are supposed to be attracted to.. that each person you date is preparing you for your future husband/wife.. the exes allow you to see the good and bad, the likes and dislikes and then be prepared to deal with them and love the “soulmate” fully, flaws and all..

Every guy that I date reminds me somehow of someone that I dated before.. but I feel that each time I upgrade and it’s becoming easier for me to see how I will deal with my husband when he comes along..

Love is not a game of sport.. but it does take practice.. we have to see the good and bad faces of our exes in order to be appreciative of all parts of our future lifemates..

So.. don’t discount the next person that comes along who reminds you of that skeezy ex who broke your heart 2 years ago.. that skeez may have just taught you more about this new guy/girl that you would ever know..

So embrace whatever it is that you find and allow the next person to prove themselves but if they turn out crazy.. that’s on you!

xoxo,

m. lauren

Do You PDA?!

Posted in Intimate Does Not Equal Sex, Love Actually.., m. lauren speaks, m.l. shrug with tags , , , , on 04/22/2010 by emellewriter

I recently had a beauty ritual chat with my friend BriSki and her sister about PDA.. they are against it and me.. well Im all for showing love!!

I understand why many people dislike PDA .. but to each his own..

I don’t think there is anything wrong with a little hand holding or sneaking a peck while out in public.. but if I catch you doing the Cedar-Point-hand-in-the-back-pocket.. YOU WILL GET SLAPPED!!

Although I don’t mind PDA I understand why some people do:

1. It’s obnoxious — PDA is many couples’ way of expressing to the world that they’re together and in love and blah blah blah.. but it can be irritating.. like seriously?! I do NOT want to watch you make out in the middle of the mall.. NASTY!!

2. It’s territorial — it’s like saying “BACK OFF BETTY, THIS IS MY MAN”… which in turn looks a bit insecure.. do you really need for your mans hand to turn white because you’re holding it so tight while you give “the eye” to every becky that you walk past?! Nahh

3. They’re jealous — some people are so miserable in their singleness or relationhsips that they don’t want to see Markwan and Keisha being all lovey dovey when they’re les miserables.. BITTER BETTIES

4. They aren’t affectionate — some people don’t even like to be touchy feely when they’re at home.. so why should they be in public?!

Personally.. I like PDA because I like P(rivate)DA.. I am very affectionate (when I want to be) and like to be loved up when I’m out too.. why not!? Nothing obnoxious but just enough that I can feel his skin caressing mine.. now thats what Im talkin bout!

Is Love Intelligent??

Posted in Love Actually.., m. lauren speaks with tags , , , , on 04/22/2010 by emellewriter

Over the past few adult years of my life.. I have heard people tell me to take it slow and be smart and all other kinds of intellectual bs when it comes to love and..

I just don’t get it..

Love is an emotion.. a feeling.. and empowering and overcoming feeling but a feeling nonetheless..

So how can you approach an emotion intellectually!? Because try as I might (and I really don’t try that hard) I just can’t..

I believe that God gave us love to be enjoyed not to shy away from and be scared of!!

I understand that we should be careful about giving our hearts away and that we should get to know someone.. but there’s no sense in denying what you feel!

If you like a person.. you can’t change that so you may as well live in the moments with them and be happy that you have someone to spend a little time with while you’re still able to instead of closing off your heart because you’re afraid of “moving too fast” or some other crap..

I know.. men and women think differently.. but love is a human emotion.. and I feel like we should all feel free to express and enjoy it freely.. I know I will

What do you think!? Can you love “smartly”?! That doesn’t even sound right!

What About Love?

Posted in IMO, Love Actually.. with tags , , , , , , on 02/18/2010 by emellewriter

Speaking of love in the romantic sense…

Love is choice.. it is not requirement for life.. it is a choice that we make to share ourselves with another special person and take the risk that they may or may not return that love.. when we choose to love another person we are willing to give more than hugs, kisses, sex and hallmark cards..

When we choose love we are giving someone else a part of ourselves.. we are allowing them to hold on to a portion of our hearts to take care of.. that is why love is such a risk

A part of that risk is knowing that love does not always come in the package that we hoped for.. we can not control the people that we begin to like, let alone love.. the only thing we can do is choose whether or not we will embrace and act on those feelings..

Just as we cannot control who we “fall” for, we cannot control whether or not that person will feel the same or act on those feelings if they do.. And that is part of why love is scary..

But why not take the risk?! What would life be like without love?! Love is to me like a gateway drug.. it leads to other emotions.. whether they be negative or positive.. one must live by feeling..

I asked my followers for their thoughts on Love.. the most powerful response:

Love is no more powerful than any other emotion, it’s our reaction that determines whether we rise or fall. Rising in love is one of the greatest things known to man. It allows for the expansion of the human capability. There’s a certain feeling of invinsibility when one is rising in love.
-Krate Digga

I believe that life would not be able to be endured without love (of any form) and having a romantic kind of love just sweetens the pot..

What do you think about LOVE?!

luv music // A Valentines Day Treat

Posted in Im Grown, KNOCK IT OUT THE PARK, Love Actually.., luv music, MMM.. Now That's Sexy, The Sexier Side of Things with tags , , , , , , on 02/14/2010 by emellewriter

Okay Valentiners.. My favorite DJ.. DJ Bern has put together something for all the lovers -cue my Donnie Simpson smooth grooves voice-

I introduce you to RugBern.. A compilation of love songs for you to get… rug burns to!!

You’ll notice that the tracks are not all your average R. Kelly/Trey Songz jams.. We’ve got some old school.. Some new school.. Baby makin music..

Download.. Enjoy & Knock it out the park!! http://www.djbern.net

Follow DJ Bern @rug_bern